I am a Stay at Home Mom. I love Chai Lattes, anything chocolate, and all of the Real Housewives. I hate cleaning bathrooms.
I've been with my husband since 2000, married since 2005, and together we have two little girls. Little Bear was born in 2009 and Crazy Plates in 2010.
This is my blog. A place where I share all the fun and frustrating things about being a Stay at Home Mom.
I hope you can enjoy, relate, and have a little laugh.
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
8 Things You Should Never Say to a Stay at Home Mom
1) What do you do all day? This question is never asked with genuine interest. The asker is never waiting with bated breath for tales of laundry and grocery shopping and tips for getting crushed Cheerios out of the carpet. No, this question is always based in a preconceived idea of our days being filled with daytime talk shows and manicures.
2) It must be nice to stay at home all day. First of all, I don't stay at home all day. I do have a playroom in my basement, but I don't have a grocery store or a dry cleaners, and my kids skating and ballet lessons are not held in my kitchen. Secondly, asking such a condescending question isn't going to make you any new friends.
3) If I stayed home all day, I'd be so bored. Then you're a boring person. Get a hobby. Clean out a closet. Spend some time with your kids.
4) I have to work all day, so I don't have time to get my nails done. Yes you do. We all make time for the things that are important to us. I get my nails done every once in a while because I'm a girl and that's what I like to do. You don't stop being a girl when you become a stay at home mom. You do become a girl who wears scrunchies and track pants to the grocery store, but you're a girl who wears scrunchies and track pants to the grocery store with a killer shellac manicure.
5) It's late, I better go. I have to work in the morning. That's too bad. I get to sleep in while my kids get their own breakfast, pack their own lunches, and walk themselves to school. Then my imaginary friends get to work cleaning my house.
6) It's so nice that your husband provides such a good life for you. I know, and I really don't deserve it, what with all the TV I watch while doing absolutely nothing else.
7) I need to work, to feel like I'm contributing and being productive. Yes, you're right. I wander around, unproductively, all day, just wishing I could contribute somehow.
8) Do you feel guilty shopping for yourself since you didn't earn the money? Maybe I should. Maybe I should also return the $40 purse I bought from Target, since I can't afford it with the zero dollars I make each week. Guess that also means when we go out for dinner, I should just stick with the free bread and water, since it fits nicely into my budget. I should also thank my husband for letting me live in the house he bought. Maybe I should start doing some chores around here, you know, earn my keep. Maybe I'll even be able to save up enough to buy back that Target purse. If it goes on sale...
I got a lot of Facebook comments regarding this post, suggesting that I was contributing to the working mom vs stay at home mom debate. This was never my intention. But, since they brought it up, I decided to write a blog post on the topic, called Working Moms vs Stay At Home Moms. I'd love for you to give it a read and tell me what you think.